Delena have both good and bad, which means they can accept anything in their future.
1. Chemistry
Bamon: For me, I see this chemistry between the two characters, but not romantically. As Kevin once said in an interview some time ago, Bonnie and Damon have this chemistry because they hate each other, not because the feelings between the two are romantic. Prehaps this is one of the reasons why I ship Stefan and Katherine, because they hate each other, and the scenes between them when they are hating each other, they have chemistry, while when they are mais casual, I don’t see that spark or chemistry. Maybe I don’t really ship them as a couple in the end, but as long as they have this chemistry with them hating each other I will, and in my opinion I think this is why most people ship Bamon in the show. If the relationship ever turned into love, there would no longer be this chemistry between them anymore, and in my opinion some Bamon fãs would no longer ship them because they’ve lots this chemistry. Between Damon and Bonnie, I honestly don’t believe there is much chemistry, although there is some, but not enough to make they be alright as a couple. Conclusion? Bamon have the chemistry, only when they are hating, which means that due to chemistry the couple wouldn’t work for me.
Stelena: For me, unlike Stelena fans, I don’t see a spark between Stefan and Elena at all. While many fãs my criticise me for this, as I said before it’s my opinion. I believe that this links back to the fact that I believe the actors Paul and Nina have chemistry as Katherine and Stefan because of the hate they have towards each other, but romantically the chemistry wouldn’t be there. This is why Stefan and Elena don’t work for me. They have never hated one another like Stefan and Katherine have, they have always loved one another, and as we’ve seen this, we’ve seen that there isn’t a spark between them. To me, they show the couple that is just there, the one who everyone knows, but the one who in the end, won’t be there because in the end there isn’t this chemistry or this connection between them. As well as this it appears that when Stefan and Elena are talked about in written or live interviews, whether por the writers Julie and Kevin, or the actors themselves, known of them ever seem to mention the element of chemistry between the two couples, not once. They always mention about being in love, but never about the chemistry between them, or whether or not they actually have it. Conclusion? Stelena don’t have the chemistry as a couple, which means that due to chemistry the couple wouldn’t work for me.
Delena: I understand that in this section, fãs that do not support Delena will roll their eyes and say that it’s just an opinion. My response would be that it is, my opinion, although many others follow it aswell. Damon and Elena do not always like each other, for chemistry this is a key element in my opinion. Throughout the seasons, they hated each other in different situations, and through all this they have chemistry. As I’ve said, hate can often mean they have chemistry, when if they were romantically involved, they might not have this chemistry. With Bamon, they have some chemistry when they are hating, not loads. With Delena, they are bursting with chemistry when they do not like each other, which means romantically they must be considered. As with the other ships, you then look at them when they amor each other, or like each other. With Delena, when they understand and care about each other, they have just as much chemistry as they do when they don’t like each other, mais in my opinion. Ian and Nina have chemistry on screen there is no doubt. With Katherine and Damon, they have chemistry too, but as I’ve said before, mais when they hate. The reason I do not ship Katherine and Damon is because for me between them it would always be lust, no amor like the relationship between Damon and Elena. Conclusion? Damon and Elena have chemistry when they are loving and hating, which means that due to chemistry they work as a couple.
2. The Wrong
Bamon: For Bamon, their relationship is full of things that involve both characters doing the wrong, and before Bamon fãs go mental, I understand the wrongs with Damon and Elena, but I’m coming onto that later. Whenever Damon does something wrong Bonnie doesn’t just tell him it’s wrong, in the past she has mentally hurt him when he has done something wrong, to punish him in my opinion. Through this, I don’t believe that they will ever learn that the wrong in their relationship means something, which I believe should in a couple. Damon has done bad things, I’m not denying it, but por the way that Bonnie handles it, it’s not going to make him better. Between the two, Damon also doesn’t seem to care if Bonnie would do anything that was bad, which for me, is a sign that if the relationship was ever to be romantic, the couple together would not work. Bonnie also blames him for a death of a family member, who in my opnion, woun’t fade anytime soon. Conclusion? They do not learn from the wrongs, so therefore the couple does not work for me.
Stelena: I’m sure Stelena fãs will say there is no wrong in their relationship, but in my opinion they are wrong. Stefan doesn’t have a perfect past, no one, I repeat no one can deny that. He was a ripper, a horrible killer, and the fact that there is stil some things hidden just shows that there is worst to come. The reality is that Elena becomes truly shocked and upset when Stefan does anything wrong, and whatever you say, in my opinion it doesn’t make there relationship stronger. Why? Because Stefan done bad things in season one, and still in season two when he’s done it again, she still seems very shocked and upset. For me this isn’t a sigh of a healthy relationship at all. If this is still happening, what happens when he goes too far? As well as this, although Elena forgives him, she takes a very long time. If he does go to the extreme, how long will it take her to forgive him then? Conclusion? It’s hard to accept the wrong, so therefore the couple does not work for me.
Delena: There has been many wrongs on Damon part when it comes to the relationship between Damon and Elena, but the thing that seperates them as a couple is that Elena has forgiven him and always will. As he was dying he mention he had done so many things to hurt her, yet Elena didn’t take a segundo to tell he that she forgived him. This, in my opnion meant everything he had ever done, and he has done a lot. He almost killed Jeremy, he forced Elena to feed his blood and he tried to stake Caroline. Yet, she has forgiven him for all this. This means that if there is worst to come they can get through it together and make it through. For me, this means that they can have a healthy relationship. Damon will never be perfect, and Elena fully knows and respects this, and even though he does wrong, he tries to make him better, but doesn’t force, and still accepts him. Conclusion? They can accept the wrong, so therefore the couple works for me.
3. The Right
Bamon: For me, there isn’t a lot to say about the right. Honestly, there isn’t any. If there was any it was when they worked together in the last dance, but even then, they didn’t care about the other or mention it after the event. Bonnie also expects Damon to do the right thing, which we all know he always can’t. She doesn’t seem to care about this however, and punishes him if he doesn’t do the right thing. For me, this just shows that if either character does right, it wouldn’t affect there relationship, they would still have a dislike towards each other. If I’m honest, there isn’t a lot to say between Bonnie and Damon for the right.Their is no right in their relationship, therefore, the relationship doesn’t work for me.
Stelena: There is a lot of right in their relationship, I’m not going to deny that, but from the fact that it can be often seen as perfect, it just shows that it’s not a true relationship. Elena sees Stefan as this forever good, always will be good vampire, and in my opinion, she just expects him to be this perfect person always, and if he does do wrong, as I’ve said before, she doesn’t accept it, doesn’t want to believe it. She struggles to forgive him for the wrong, as she believes that Stefan should already do the right. Like she really expects him to be this perfect person, when he can’t be. Conclusion? She accepts him to be good too much, therefore, the relationship doesn’t work for me.
Delena:There is good, as well as the bad. There is not too much of either, which is why it works for me. When Damon is better, Elena shows that it makes her happy, but doesn’t force him to be good. Damon can see that it makes her happy, and he tries harder. This to me, is very healthy in a relationship, doing something as big as this for the other. Damon knows that Elena is good and respects her, and he thanks her when she helps him becoming mais good. They help one another in my opinion in the quest for realising who they really are, whether that’s good or not, they try and make each other better through everything, and I believe in a healthy relationship this is key. Conclusion? There is good, and they help each other with it, therefore the relationship works for me.
Conclusion to Right & Wrong:
For Bamon there is too much bad, for Stelena there is too much good, but with Delena there is both, which makes whatever comes there way accepted.
Stelena have too much good, and can't accept the bad.
Bamon have too much bad, and can't accept the good.
