Don't you think the way you get the mangekyo sharingan is a bit lame .. i mean how is killing someone dear or watching them die related to a change of chakra or whatever iside the body to produce a new ninjutsu weapon ?

Emotions can effect your body dramatically. People can literally die of grief. All the process for obtaining the Mangekyo Sharingan is is a multiplied version of obtaining a normal Sharingan for the first time. A powerful emotion, usually fear or pain, causes some kind of reaction in the the body that activates the Uchiha bloodlimit.

It's the emotion killing your best friend causes that gives you the Mangekyo, not the act itself.

*Spoiler*
That's why Sasuke's didn't activate his until Tobi told him the truth about Itachi instead of just right after Itachi died.
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