Suicides
The biggest issue that has come to mind is when one ends oneās life. Why they do this? You would probably say,ā Donāt they know theyāll probably go to hell?ā Iāll tell you, that they donāt care. You don't have to be crazy to think about it or, for that matter, even to try it. Suicide is a solution. No matter what anyone tells you, suicide does solve problems, at least your problems. If you succeed, it solves them once and for all.
As you have no doubt already figured out, once you are dead nothing can hurt you anymore. Once you are dead you are beyond feeling bad. Once you are dead you can't possibly care what happens anymore. Whatever pain you are in, it will end just as soon as you stop breathing. Since there is no point in kidding each other right here in the beginning, I won't argue with you that suicide doesn't work. It does. Or at least it seems to. Before this time in your life, my guess is that when you heard people say they felt like killing themselves, you thought they were crazy. Now, if you were in their place, maybe you can see how they felt. For whatever reasons people think it, most of them will say you are crazy for thinking about suicide.
Or, if you kill yourself, they will say you must have been crazy to have done it. But the truth is that most people who kill themselves are not mentally ill, at least in the way we think of people who are āout of their minds.ā Yes, people who are psychotic sometimes kill themselves, but most people who die por suicide are people just like you and me; people who, have decided that life is just not worth living anymore. The great majority of people who attempt or complete a suicide are so sad or hopeless or angry that they simply can't stand life anymore. Or they have been dealt such a terrible blow por life that they are overwhelmed and can see no other way to end the feelings of loss, stop the suffering and regain control over their future. But they are not crazy. And, most likely, neither are you.
Why do they do this? These victims attempt suicide or commit it because they feel alone, unloved, unwanted in the world, they are constantly depressed, never truly happy with their life, or the people they have to shared it with. So if these people are going through so much pain already, why do they inflict mais pain on themselves like the people who cut themselves! Why do they make themselves suffer even more!!? Calling themselves names, making themselves feel like crap! They torture themselves mais than the world tortures them.
How do they commit suicide? What do they use? The most common weapon used is the gun, either borrow a gun, or steal one, they manage on finding one. For the teens, most of them hurt themselves with anything sharp. A knife, glass, pencil, blade, toothpick, just anything that can cause pain! Some hang themselves, over-dose, suffocate, and drown. They find themselves alone in their house or quiet room. They have a suicide weapon, no one can stop them, and then itās all over. It can be slow and painful like cutting or fast and easy with a gun.
What leads them to feel depressed or alone? Many suicides are from teens and young adults. Like for teens, usually family problems. Parents are divorced, young seventeen ano old sister having two girls, and having them taken away and given to your mom. You and your family have to deal with infants in the house. Youāre frustrated!
All the crying and diaper changing, and you didnāt even ask for this!! Mother neglects you and pays less attention with your success or school work. Father is not seen for months, turned out he remarried someone twenty years younger than him and didnāt bother telling you. Youāve really just been having suicidal thoughts and only attempting a couple of times but you can see that life isnāt going well. Only one who loves you is your boyfriend/girlfriend. So what do you do if you lose that person? You crack. You attempt to kill yourself por choking yourself and banging your head against walls over and over till you bleed!!
Nobody cares! They donāt notice the scars, the bruises and the pain that you go through.
You donāt have to be diagnosed with depression to have suicidal thoughts, it just comes with the way life hits you. Some people have it easy and say ālife is life, so get over it!ā they donāt see how bad some people have it. If they were in thatās persons shoes, they would think differently.
I don't know what kind of parents you have. But I do know a few things about families. And I know a few things about the kind of families in which people begin to think about suicide.
To begin with our families are supposed to be the place where we can go to feel secure and loved and respected. When the world is against us, or we are failing or feeling pushed or threatened, it is to our families we are supposed to turn for support and understanding. Families are supposed to be our port in a storm, our place to go when we have nowhere else to turn. But some of us know this isnāt necessarily so!
A boy I knew attempted to hang himself. The rope he tried to use broke and he was did not die. On hearing of this, his father said, "Hell, he can't even do that right!" less and less. As we grow up, we find our friends mais and mais important until, one day, we fall in amor with someone and go off and start families of our own. Our families are the starting line in life, not the finish line. Sometimes it helps to remember that while they are our parents, it isn't like we got to pick them.
Immature Parents. I have met lots of moms and dads who were, except for their age, not much older than their children.
Emotionally they were still teenagers. When their children needed amor and understanding, they just couldn't give it, or didn't know how. So at least one thing you might think about is whether or not your parents even know how to give you what you need.
Sometimes our parents were no mais than children when they had us. They had dreams and plans and hopes to do something with their lives and, for lots of reasons, maybe they never got to do these things. So they are frustrated.
You and your brothers and sisters started coming along and, before they knew it, they had a family and bills and obligations, and their dreams, however badly they wanted to see them come true, began to disappear. As sad as it is, some parents blame their children for their own unhappiness.
They say, "If I hadn't had you, I could have been..." and you can fill in the blanks. This is a heavy load. To my way of thinking each of us is responsible, in large part, for our own happiness. If we don't live our dreams and push for the things we want and take control of our own futures, then we don't have anyone to blame but ourselves.
It is just not right or fair to blame our children. What I want you to understand is that while your parents may blame you for their unhappiness, you don't have to buy it. You don't, as I've seen many kids do, have to accept their blaming you for making their lives miserable. If you are the one who is holding them back from their dreams and making them unhappy, then maybe the thing to do is to relieve them of this burden (you) and kill yourself.
Maybe you have thought, "If I just killed myself, my mother could be happy. She could go back to school and do all the things she says she wants to do. I'm just in the way."Let me suggest something to you. What if I told you that even if you killed yourself, she would probably not be happy and, in fact, she would be unhappy? Because now, in addition to whatever other failures she has had, your killing yourself makes her a complete failure as a mother.
If I had to bet on what they would do after your suicide, it would be that they would simply find someone else to blame for why they don't live up to their dreams. Killing yourself to get out of the way is no solution to your parents' unhappiness. Their unhappiness is their problem, not yours.
Angry Parents.
The lack of amor and understanding from immature parents is one kind of pain a child sometimes has to live with, but there is something worse. Sometimes your parents are angry and hostile and openly fight with each other. Sometimes they seem to be at war with one another and they may even hit each other. There is name-calling and swearing.
There may even be threats to kill each other. Or one parent may threaten suicide to get back at the other. One of the things that happen to kids caught in angry families like this is that the parents may say, "If it wasn't for the kids, I'd leave!" Or, "If it wasn't for these damned kids, I would have left you years ago!" When you hear this what do you think?
What you think is that you're standing in the way of what they say they want you start wondering what you can do to solve their problems.
For good reason, lots of kids begin to assume that they are the fonte of their parents' problems with each other and that, if they simply got out of the picture, their parents would be able to be happy and be back in amor with each other. What's worse, the parents let them think this way.
There are many incidents like a mother brought her daughter to the emergency room after the girl had taken several dozen aspirin tablets in an effort to die. "She didn't mean it,ā the mother told the doctor. "It was an accident. She just didn't know what she was doing. She certainly didn't mean to harm herself. Don't worry, after I take her inĆcio Lord knows we didn't teach her to act like that!
I'll ground her for a month!"Are these loving parents? Probably. Do they know what to do with their suicidal child? Nope. As upset as these parents were, each of them did something parents often do when they've had the wits scared out of them they blamed the victim.
It happens all the time. If you think that por trying suicide you are suddenly going to have loving parents, you might be wrong. You might get their attention and your parents may decide that something is wrong, but there is a good chance that what they will do is decide that something is wrong with you, not them.
Having these thoughts and attempting them is one thing, but going through it is hard to do because you start thinking about your love, the people and pets you would die for. You can prevent these thoughts with counseling but most people donāt want that, they want to deal with it their own way, sure thatās okay too, I would probably choose that way too, but I have too much to live for.
The biggest issue that has come to mind is when one ends oneās life. Why they do this? You would probably say,ā Donāt they know theyāll probably go to hell?ā Iāll tell you, that they donāt care. You don't have to be crazy to think about it or, for that matter, even to try it. Suicide is a solution. No matter what anyone tells you, suicide does solve problems, at least your problems. If you succeed, it solves them once and for all.
As you have no doubt already figured out, once you are dead nothing can hurt you anymore. Once you are dead you are beyond feeling bad. Once you are dead you can't possibly care what happens anymore. Whatever pain you are in, it will end just as soon as you stop breathing. Since there is no point in kidding each other right here in the beginning, I won't argue with you that suicide doesn't work. It does. Or at least it seems to. Before this time in your life, my guess is that when you heard people say they felt like killing themselves, you thought they were crazy. Now, if you were in their place, maybe you can see how they felt. For whatever reasons people think it, most of them will say you are crazy for thinking about suicide.
Or, if you kill yourself, they will say you must have been crazy to have done it. But the truth is that most people who kill themselves are not mentally ill, at least in the way we think of people who are āout of their minds.ā Yes, people who are psychotic sometimes kill themselves, but most people who die por suicide are people just like you and me; people who, have decided that life is just not worth living anymore. The great majority of people who attempt or complete a suicide are so sad or hopeless or angry that they simply can't stand life anymore. Or they have been dealt such a terrible blow por life that they are overwhelmed and can see no other way to end the feelings of loss, stop the suffering and regain control over their future. But they are not crazy. And, most likely, neither are you.
Why do they do this? These victims attempt suicide or commit it because they feel alone, unloved, unwanted in the world, they are constantly depressed, never truly happy with their life, or the people they have to shared it with. So if these people are going through so much pain already, why do they inflict mais pain on themselves like the people who cut themselves! Why do they make themselves suffer even more!!? Calling themselves names, making themselves feel like crap! They torture themselves mais than the world tortures them.
How do they commit suicide? What do they use? The most common weapon used is the gun, either borrow a gun, or steal one, they manage on finding one. For the teens, most of them hurt themselves with anything sharp. A knife, glass, pencil, blade, toothpick, just anything that can cause pain! Some hang themselves, over-dose, suffocate, and drown. They find themselves alone in their house or quiet room. They have a suicide weapon, no one can stop them, and then itās all over. It can be slow and painful like cutting or fast and easy with a gun.
What leads them to feel depressed or alone? Many suicides are from teens and young adults. Like for teens, usually family problems. Parents are divorced, young seventeen ano old sister having two girls, and having them taken away and given to your mom. You and your family have to deal with infants in the house. Youāre frustrated!
All the crying and diaper changing, and you didnāt even ask for this!! Mother neglects you and pays less attention with your success or school work. Father is not seen for months, turned out he remarried someone twenty years younger than him and didnāt bother telling you. Youāve really just been having suicidal thoughts and only attempting a couple of times but you can see that life isnāt going well. Only one who loves you is your boyfriend/girlfriend. So what do you do if you lose that person? You crack. You attempt to kill yourself por choking yourself and banging your head against walls over and over till you bleed!!
Nobody cares! They donāt notice the scars, the bruises and the pain that you go through.
You donāt have to be diagnosed with depression to have suicidal thoughts, it just comes with the way life hits you. Some people have it easy and say ālife is life, so get over it!ā they donāt see how bad some people have it. If they were in thatās persons shoes, they would think differently.
I don't know what kind of parents you have. But I do know a few things about families. And I know a few things about the kind of families in which people begin to think about suicide.
To begin with our families are supposed to be the place where we can go to feel secure and loved and respected. When the world is against us, or we are failing or feeling pushed or threatened, it is to our families we are supposed to turn for support and understanding. Families are supposed to be our port in a storm, our place to go when we have nowhere else to turn. But some of us know this isnāt necessarily so!
A boy I knew attempted to hang himself. The rope he tried to use broke and he was did not die. On hearing of this, his father said, "Hell, he can't even do that right!" less and less. As we grow up, we find our friends mais and mais important until, one day, we fall in amor with someone and go off and start families of our own. Our families are the starting line in life, not the finish line. Sometimes it helps to remember that while they are our parents, it isn't like we got to pick them.
Immature Parents. I have met lots of moms and dads who were, except for their age, not much older than their children.
Emotionally they were still teenagers. When their children needed amor and understanding, they just couldn't give it, or didn't know how. So at least one thing you might think about is whether or not your parents even know how to give you what you need.
Sometimes our parents were no mais than children when they had us. They had dreams and plans and hopes to do something with their lives and, for lots of reasons, maybe they never got to do these things. So they are frustrated.
You and your brothers and sisters started coming along and, before they knew it, they had a family and bills and obligations, and their dreams, however badly they wanted to see them come true, began to disappear. As sad as it is, some parents blame their children for their own unhappiness.
They say, "If I hadn't had you, I could have been..." and you can fill in the blanks. This is a heavy load. To my way of thinking each of us is responsible, in large part, for our own happiness. If we don't live our dreams and push for the things we want and take control of our own futures, then we don't have anyone to blame but ourselves.
It is just not right or fair to blame our children. What I want you to understand is that while your parents may blame you for their unhappiness, you don't have to buy it. You don't, as I've seen many kids do, have to accept their blaming you for making their lives miserable. If you are the one who is holding them back from their dreams and making them unhappy, then maybe the thing to do is to relieve them of this burden (you) and kill yourself.
Maybe you have thought, "If I just killed myself, my mother could be happy. She could go back to school and do all the things she says she wants to do. I'm just in the way."Let me suggest something to you. What if I told you that even if you killed yourself, she would probably not be happy and, in fact, she would be unhappy? Because now, in addition to whatever other failures she has had, your killing yourself makes her a complete failure as a mother.
If I had to bet on what they would do after your suicide, it would be that they would simply find someone else to blame for why they don't live up to their dreams. Killing yourself to get out of the way is no solution to your parents' unhappiness. Their unhappiness is their problem, not yours.
Angry Parents.
The lack of amor and understanding from immature parents is one kind of pain a child sometimes has to live with, but there is something worse. Sometimes your parents are angry and hostile and openly fight with each other. Sometimes they seem to be at war with one another and they may even hit each other. There is name-calling and swearing.
There may even be threats to kill each other. Or one parent may threaten suicide to get back at the other. One of the things that happen to kids caught in angry families like this is that the parents may say, "If it wasn't for the kids, I'd leave!" Or, "If it wasn't for these damned kids, I would have left you years ago!" When you hear this what do you think?
What you think is that you're standing in the way of what they say they want you start wondering what you can do to solve their problems.
For good reason, lots of kids begin to assume that they are the fonte of their parents' problems with each other and that, if they simply got out of the picture, their parents would be able to be happy and be back in amor with each other. What's worse, the parents let them think this way.
There are many incidents like a mother brought her daughter to the emergency room after the girl had taken several dozen aspirin tablets in an effort to die. "She didn't mean it,ā the mother told the doctor. "It was an accident. She just didn't know what she was doing. She certainly didn't mean to harm herself. Don't worry, after I take her inĆcio Lord knows we didn't teach her to act like that!
I'll ground her for a month!"Are these loving parents? Probably. Do they know what to do with their suicidal child? Nope. As upset as these parents were, each of them did something parents often do when they've had the wits scared out of them they blamed the victim.
It happens all the time. If you think that por trying suicide you are suddenly going to have loving parents, you might be wrong. You might get their attention and your parents may decide that something is wrong, but there is a good chance that what they will do is decide that something is wrong with you, not them.
Having these thoughts and attempting them is one thing, but going through it is hard to do because you start thinking about your love, the people and pets you would die for. You can prevent these thoughts with counseling but most people donāt want that, they want to deal with it their own way, sure thatās okay too, I would probably choose that way too, but I have too much to live for.
i cant take any more
of these drugs.
the poison,
attacking at my veins,
fogo spreading through,
cant breathe.
but i need these,
and i must feel this
in order to get better.
no matter what it takes,
i have to get over you.
and even if this is
the most irrational way
to get over you,
i still intend on doing this.
i dont care how many needles
i must pierce through my arms,
how many seizures i must suffer through,
whatever it takes.
im going to do my best
to forget you even exist.
i dont care how much cocaine i snuff,
how many pills i take,
how many cuts
slice through my skin,
or even if i end up
killing myself in the process.
i would be so lucky.
so,whatever it takes
to get over you
is the extreme
im going to have to
accomplish.
i dont care if i live,
i dont care if i die,
i dont care if all of this
is even real or not.
im just going to do
whatever it takes
to get you out of my mind.
even if i die...
of these drugs.
the poison,
attacking at my veins,
fogo spreading through,
cant breathe.
but i need these,
and i must feel this
in order to get better.
no matter what it takes,
i have to get over you.
and even if this is
the most irrational way
to get over you,
i still intend on doing this.
i dont care how many needles
i must pierce through my arms,
how many seizures i must suffer through,
whatever it takes.
im going to do my best
to forget you even exist.
i dont care how much cocaine i snuff,
how many pills i take,
how many cuts
slice through my skin,
or even if i end up
killing myself in the process.
i would be so lucky.
so,whatever it takes
to get over you
is the extreme
im going to have to
accomplish.
i dont care if i live,
i dont care if i die,
i dont care if all of this
is even real or not.
im just going to do
whatever it takes
to get you out of my mind.
even if i die...
Well.....I tried an overdose on aspirin's and pain killers (and other stuff that i just picked up and took but IDK what it is) but I just got VERY sick and had to get my stomach flushed(didn't like that at all)......I'm still alive and not dead-I'm still unsure if i want to go through suicide again.I am not dead...I hurt a lot but i'm not dead. um....that's almost all of what i wanted to say the other thing is-I am emo,i tried to commit suicide 6 times (counting this one)and I will not die until fate takes me.....................................................That's all. amor ya Lizy. I sware I'll never do that again.I put you through hell and i'm sorry.