What is something you like the concept of but not the reality of? Example in details section.

Oof. There are so many but 'Romance' is the first thing that came to my mind. Not your ordinary romance, but that once-in-a-lifetime kind of amor which is really intense and full of passion.
I consider myself a secret romantic. I like watching romantic filmes and leitura novels and I admit, it all looks fun and something I would like to try...someday. But so far all my relationships were bland. I become practical and start cringing at any romantic effort (I don't think I have attachment or commitment issues..i guess) I guess I only like the idea of intense amor but I couldn't manifest it in reality...at least not for now.

There are probably a good few things but the first thing to come to mind is like... trauma recovery.

Cos like trauma recovery SOUNDS nice and all like... processing the bad things that happened and getting over it but honestly the way people talk about it and media presents it is super super romanticized. Recovering from trauma is a really painful, gross, and ugly process with a massive up front down payment for a much larger payout in the future, but its a MASSIVE up front payment.

I've been in therapy for like two years maybe two and a half and outside of barely skimming trauma, I've barely really genuinely started directly addressing one of the "lightests" traumas I've gone though and its really hell.

Recovering from Trauma is deciding that you give up the comfort of "alright enough I guess" that you got used to and diving into hell to come out the other end in what is said to be a better, mais free, and functionable life

But recovery really isn't half as beautiful as many make it out to be