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Please help a christian who needs it :'(

I have never told anyone this, not my parents, not my friends, (you'll see why) nor my siblings.

I was a little kid, I had switched schools, from 1st Grade, to 2nd, I had found new friends to accompany my GT classes, I had found about 5 friends when I got there (and I was really shy, so I was proud with myself :) ) Im not telling the names so if they read this they wont know... They seemed very nice at the beginning snd I was beginning to know mais about them, but as that happened, I found that they weren't actually very nice, they cussed constantly, (it started in about 3rd Grade), they talked about mais disgusting things like sex, private parts, etc. And I didn't want to be their friends anymore, but I couldn't just stop! I was stuck with them in the class! So I stayed "friends", and the mais they grew with me, the less I liked them. Until I REALLY hated them, they cussed at their own classmates, ME, and the teacher sometimes with the teacher noticing. One of my "friends" even watched porn, I was shocked when I figured out they did, they also said THEY were Christians, and when I asked them how, they said, "OH, I have like 5 (bleeping) bibles in my house!" It was obvious they didn't know what being a true Christian was :'( I felt sad. Please tell me what to do! Even my dad went through something like this, but in the streets! If you guys could help me through middle school, that would be a huge help, i'm sorry if I wasted your time with this huge paragraph ;(
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You did not waste my time & I am glad you ask... (My answer actually took several attempts through computers problems, etc, but I wanted you to get it, to see you can be loved and have friends who ARE what you need and sometimes we have to wait. God is all we really need and He can be a friend. Now ask Him. :)
Sinna_Hime_chan posted over a year ago
 DannyGassy posted over a year ago
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PucksLady said:
oi now don't worry about the large paragraph!

Wow, this is a big problem! I've never had to deal with this, thank God, but I do have "friends" who are terrible people. The best way to deal with this, that I can think of, is to just ignore them. They are terrible people, and they do not know what it means to be a true Christian. I wouldn't say anything, though, because if you do, they might say that you're shoving your "religion" down their throats (I have had experience with that).

However, if they start bad-mouthing Christianity, you do need to stand up for what you believe in. Don't be afraid to do that! Call on Christ as your protecter and ask Him to give you the right words to say.

I hope I helped, and feel free to message me if you need anything. :)
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coriann said:
wow Danny, im so sorry, i understand the pain you must feel, Danny, i was a Christian once, and before you start judging me, just listen...
I went through the same thing, and I wondered, where on earth are all the other Christians? I began to feel lonely, I didn't have such a good ending, but you can!

I know this might seem hard for you, and it must make you angry to think that your friend calls him/herself a Christian,
but Danny, you need to take a deep breath and put all of this aside, look inside yourself, you know who you are but you also know that you have to stay in school.

You stay friends with them, you need to open up your mind to these people, don't judge them, try to understand why they do the things they do, then, maybe if you can understand them, you will not feel so upset with them anymore. Get along with them because in a dangerous place like school, you need to have friends, you need to have people who have your back,

you may not understand these friends, im not saying you have to be best friends with them, but, the bible says to amor your enemy and pray for those who persecute you, judge not and you shall not be judged.
you know who you are, that's the most important thing, and there are plenty of people out there that feel the same way as you and you will find them eventually! :D and you'll be really happy, in the mean time hang in there baby, lol i don't want you to end up like me

i hope this was good advice! ^ ^
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Coriann - you know I amor ya bunches Hunny, but if you have turned AWAY from God, then why are you even answering someone's pergunta HERE. I can't judge you to even ask you why you are here, though, in truth I wonder, as this is a "Christianity" Club & you say you aren't... but people come here to hear from Christians and not non-Christians. They could go anywhere else for that conselhos and I hope you understand what I am trying to say isn't saying you have nothing good to offer, I am just wondering why you answer f they are ASKINg or needing something else?
Sinna_Hime_chan posted over a year ago
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You have A LOT of good to offer and say some wonderful things~ I amor you... and it is NOT an end for you Baby Gurl, like you said, it is a beginning and never ever too late while you have breath I hope sooner than later you can find your way back to God because you are precious.
Sinna_Hime_chan posted over a year ago
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:) thx Sin, lol, you know i will, not like i can stay away from y'all ;)
coriann posted over a year ago
Sinna_Hime_chan said:
Just because someone says they are a Christian doesn't mean they are & just because a Christian isn't perfect or has faults -doesn't mean they aren't, people can be false as you saw very clearly with your eyes about your friends - now look at yourself.

God brings us up to learn. All throughout the Bible were many trials, tribulations, choices & lessons to help us. Personally I think you were wrong to stay friends with those classmates. To me that shows you were not strong. I must have super hero strength then for the choices I have faced, (not really) because even being able to make a good choice here or there, I am NOT the one who is strong- GOD IS; it is He who is in me & God who enables that ability. I still get very sad, I still falter. My point is life isn't about others (though we can learn from watching them), it is about trying to make better & better decisions ourselves & about growing.

As a Christian it is supposed to be about faith & not caring about worldly issues or about what anyone else is doing or thinking but caring about what God thinks & about how we feel about it with the Holy Spirit inside as our compass. We are given guidance and a conscience. These "lofty" ideals really are not unabtainable or confusing..... God makes things mais simple than for people without Him.

The simple thing here is seeing that you needed people of "positive" support, who lift you in positive ways & directions... friends who "relate" to you, in actions, heart, & spirit because it makes a WORLD of difference.

This is your personal journey.
This is also how God hones us and weeds us out.
You will have difficult decisions throughout your life. If you feel you lack something- PRAY for it. Anything asked in jesus name will be given according to His will. ASK for strength & (being careful what you ask for) ASK for God to surround you with the positive people HE wants for you in your life.

Don't feel bad for letting them go.
Maybe they have never heard anyone tell them, "I am sorry, we're friends, but I don't think this is how I wanted things to be for me or imagined them-it hurt me the way you acted because it made me feel bad. It just is not what I need to be around because that isn't what I want to do. Sorry." and if they are jerks they are gonna act like jerks. Life gets hard. This is all about learning so that YOU can do better and deal better and please God and then be blessed and pleased yourself por the blessings of seeking Him. Because you care -you will see God cares very much too. He always cares about you. He will always help you (*esp when you seek Him or ask).

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 [b]Just because someone says they are a Christian doesn't mean they are[/b] & [b]just because a Christian isn't perfect or has faults -doesn't mean they aren't[/b], people can be false as you saw very clearly with your eyes about your friends - [b]now look at yourself[/b]. [b]God brings us up to learn[/b]. All throughout the Bible were many trials, tribulations, choices & lessons to help us. Personally I think you were wrong to stay friends with those classmates. To me that shows you were not strong. I must have super hero strength then for the choices I have faced, (not really) because even being able to make a good choice here or there, I am NOT the one who is strong- GOD IS; it is He who is in me & God who enables that ability. I still get very sad, I still falter. My point is life isn't about others (though we can learn from watching them), it is about trying to make better & better decisions ourselves & about growing. As a Christian it is supposed to be about faith & not caring about worldly issues or about what anyone else is doing or thinking but caring about what God thinks & about how we feel about it with the Holy Spirit inside as our compass. We are given guidance and a conscience. These "lofty" ideals really are not unabtainable or confusing..... God makes things mais simple than for people without Him. The simple thing here is seeing that you needed people of "positive" support, who lift you in positive ways & directions... friends who "relate" to you, in actions, heart, & spirit because it makes a WORLD of difference. This is your personal journey. This is also how God hones us and weeds us out. You will have difficult decisions throughout your life. If you feel you lack something- PRAY for it. Anything asked in jesus name will be given according to His will. ASK for strength & (being careful what you ask for) ASK for God to surround you with the positive people HE wants for you in your life. Don't feel bad for letting them go. Maybe they have never heard anyone tell them, "I am sorry, we're friends, but I don't think this is how I wanted things to be for me or imagined them-it hurt me the way you acted because it made me feel bad. It just is not what I need to be around because that isn't what I want to do. Sorry." and if they are jerks they are gonna act like jerks. Life gets hard. This is all about learning so that YOU can do better and deal better and please God and then be blessed and pleased yourself por the blessings of seeking Him. Because you care -you will see God cares very much too. He always cares about you. He will always help you (*esp when you seek Him or ask). [url=http://www.wikihow.com/Decide-if-Your-Friend-is-a-True-Friend]Real/True Friend or Not?[/url]
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...and what Coriann said, about looking at your friends and trying to understand where they are at too- don't burn your bridge or be too harsh or judgemental, don't be ugly to them, but people do grow apart and you do not have to sit in the assento of the scoffer nor stand in the path of the sinner to amor your enemies and bless those that curse you. You can be a postive example for them, but don't let "them" drag "you" down ;)
Sinna_Hime_chan posted over a year ago
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Thanks, your answer really helped :')
DannyGassy posted over a year ago
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d'awe! look you got me blushin! ^ ^ thx Sin, im glad to hear somebody actually appreciates all the stuff i post! you know i really put a lot of time into some of my posts, like the one on gays going to heaven, i spent all morning researching for that, no it was fun really, i was actually bored out of my mind so again thx a lot and i really like you too! i enjoy posting with you! ^ ^
coriann posted over a year ago
natalierg said:
Don't worry about the paragraph, it's not even that big and composição literária helps you vent. Life can get tough and bumpy sometimes but it's important to never stray from God. You should leave those "friends" because even though it's hard it's better to have no friends than "friends" who bring you down in your faith and just in general. You should look into a thing called Lift Camp. It is AMAZING and brings you soooooo much closer to God.
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MineTurtle5 said:
Those people who call themselves Christians, and yet live in sin, are called 'lukewarm'. And that's very dangerous.
God says in Revelation 3:16 that he will spit the lukewarm Christians out of his mouth.
Also, those lukewarm Christians who are doing just enough, get just enough of the Lord to get by, risk missing Him altogether.

If you haven't already talked to them about what they're doing is wrong, do that. If they still ignore you, pray for them, if you haven't started already
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