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ArcticWolf said:
I actually may be going through this situation right now, but I may be wrong because my ability to analyze social situations is at a -20. I think it depends first on if the person even tells me anything. In my current situation, for example, the person "claims" to know we're just friends (or "acquaintances" as I would prefer to call it) but then likes to crack immature "jokes" such as "But how would your parents react if we said we were dating? Seriously, should we tell them just to see how they'd react?!" (and he's even 22, mind you...). I find the whole thing very obnoxious, but if it's just an inkling like this, my gut reaction is to ignore the problem - if they're going to play the denial game, then it's their own damn fault when I choose not to acknowledge anything. I know it's not the mature way to go about it, but when a person both acknowledges that they're fine not dating and still continues with behavior that indicates otherwise, including behavior that's explicitly been stated to make the other person uncomfortable and yet they don't bother to stop the behavior, I don't see the need to escalate the situation into something even mais undesirable. In hindsight, I guess it depends on whether the person lowkey irritates me or not. On the other hand, I can deal with things in a mais active manner if I'm told directly that a person likes me. That way I can at least try to reject them gently. I'm sorry, I'm such a bad and awkward person when it comes to unrequited love. I pity anyone who has feelings for me, and I mean that in the nicest way possible.
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