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Me & my best guy friend...well..i need help...

i like...love him right? but we are like brother and sister.

We talk on the phone all the time and we tell each other everything. he confesses in me and i confess in him and we have like little theraphy sessions! lol. We are so alike it's not even funny.

we both sing. amor the same música and play instruments and have crazy hispanic families.

also like, everyone says that whenever i look away he looks at me (but not just looks...but like...LOOKS) and smiles his perfect little crooked smile. :). and then when i sing (cause we're in drama together) aparently he smiles and looks as if he so proud of me.

he's always telling me he loves me, but i take it as a joke. like he'll randomly breathe in really deeply and say "i amor you". and i laugh and be like "i amor you too." and as in like a joke...i guess (though i really wanna say it for real).

The other dia we had "a fake fight" where he called me ugly (i knew he was joking) and i got "mad". we'll he climbed over this mesa, tabela and wrapped his arms around me from the back. i said "i don't accept hugs from you anymore." so then he held me tighter and put his chin on my shoulder and KISSED MY SHOULDER!

you might be thinking "oh yea he likes you." but we've been friends for so long and i know him so well but the only thing i'm never sure of is that i just can never ever tell if he likes somebody! i mean last ano he likes two of my best friends. one rejected him the other went out with him for two months and then he broke up with her. and then at the end of that school ano he started liking my enemy (hahaha).

he says he doesnt like her anymore (and i wanna trust him but...) i just dont know anymore. and i dont wanna say anything to him about me liking hm alot because last ano someone told him and it was awkward for a while...

help? please!




 Paramorefanatic posted over a year ago
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Eline_K said:
Wow, that's a difficult situation you've got yourself into.. Sound like you really are in amor with him, right?

Personally I thinks it always good to first be friends, and then fall in love, because then you can really be yourself around him. Some people act differently when they're in amor and they want the other person to like them.

In your situation you have a friendship you really don't want to lose. Telling him how you feel without any warning might upset him and ruin your friendship. You'll have to decide whether or not you are prepared to put that on the line.

Maybe it's an idea to call in help from someone else. Is there someone you know well (and trust) who also knows him? Maybe he/she could try to find out how he feels, in a way he won't know you send him/her. Like saying something like: 'Well, you two are so close.. anything mais going on between you..?' Who knows he might open up. This might help you find out how he feels about you. If he insinuates he likes you too, the risk of losing him as a friend is lower, and your chances of amor are higher. If he says he really sees you as 'just a friend', chances are things can get awkward again if you speak up.

You are in an extremely difficult situation. Be careful, you have a lot to lose! But if you believe there's a chance of true love: go for it!

Hope this helped, and let me know what happens!

Eline
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wow thanks! the only thin is...he lies and says he doesn't like somebody when he does! and he's done it to me, his BEST GUY FRIEND and almost everyone.
Paramorefanatic posted over a year ago
Alexina123 said:
Well, to me this seems extremely cute! Haha. I like how you too are really close and you have feelings for him, it's sweet. :) I just recently broke up with my boyfriend because it wasn't really working out, I think we needed to get to know each other first. Looks like you have skipped a stage, though. :P
Anyway, I think you should really go right out and tell him the truth. He seems like a nice enough guy that if he didn't like you back in that way then he would still be your friend, right?
But the thing is, it's really hard to keep your feelings bottled up inside you. :/ Saying them even if he doesn't feel the same is much better than always wondering...what if...
It seems like you would feel comfortable enough to tell him how you really feel because how close you two seem. :] and it's even great you two share the same intersts and are alike.
You say he lies about who he likes so maybe he's lying about if he likes you or not...he most probably does but is feeling like you and doesn't want to let his feelings out.
Personally, I think you should invite him round your house or call him, which ever is easier for you...Then say to him how you feel but make sure you mention that it's okay if he doesn't like you like that, and that you will always be his friend no matter what.
I'm sorry if I didn't help at all! Good luck, though. :] Hope it does work out and you do get with him, looks like it could last long.
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moonlightgirls1 said:
i understand what you are going through try to tell him how you feel evan if its hard and if is a real friend he will stand por you and you never know he might have feeligns for you to!x
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Sinna_Hime_chan said:
Normally I might not say this~ in fact I have yet to say this to ANYONE in over a ano on fp.

Throw him down and just kiss him!

He'll be shocked and might not respond like you like or want but give him a dia or two to let it sink in. lol
.......see what happens.

-Your other choice~ Ask him if he has ever thought of you as mais than just friends or in a way outside the friendzone/sisterly way...

[PS. I have been with my bro/best guy friend for almost a ano as his gf and I did not think of him as anything mais - we were friends almost a ano and now things are STEAM'N HOT XD... Good Luck]
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Normally I might not say this~ in fact I have yet to say this to ANYONE in over a ano on fp. [b]Throw him down and just kiss him![/b] He'll be shocked and might not respond like you like or want but give him a dia or two to let it sink in. lol .......see what happens. -[b]Your other choice~ Ask him if he has ever thought of you as mais than just friends or in a way outside the friendzone/sisterly way...[/b] [PS. I have been with my bro/best guy friend for almost a ano as his gf and I did not think of him as anything mais - we were friends almost a ano and now things are STEAM'N HOT XD... Good Luck]
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