So hey everyone :)

That's definitely not a huge problem but eh I just needed an opinion. So basically it's about my love life (or my non-love-life actually ah ah). Well anway, I just thought that since we are like a family I could eventually ask you some advice.

So I don't exactly know where I'm supposed to start. But here we go. So I'm a reserved person. I'm not shy at all but I just don't really like to go to people like that. I never do the first move or very rarely. Every single time I dated a guy, he was the one to make the first move actually. I never did. That was always easy for me because everytime I had a crush on a guy he would have it for me too. So he would be the one to come first.

But at the end of the last school year (so near April/May 2013), I've been having a huge crush on a guy in my college. I've never talked to him, he's just definitely my type physically speaking. Anyway, I had never noticed him from the whole year but one day I just saw he was looking at me and that's how I knew he existed ah ah :) But since, we basiccaly just look at each other everytime we can. The thing is his best friend (who's a girl) looks at me too, and that is annoying because I have no idea why and that can be disturbing sometimes. I assume he had talk to her about me or maybe they have been noticing that I'm into him ? I just don't know. But I'm being more than discret on this one...

Moreover, there is this other guy, I've been talking to a few times last year and this year too. And everytime we would be together he would ask a lot about me etc... And he also likes to tease me a lot! :) I was told lately that he was into me but he just didn't know how to show or to say. Since that, I've been noticing that he's always looking at me with insistance and sometimes I feel like he's sad while looking at me and that breaks my heart. The thing is he's not exacty my type but I feel like I wouldn't be against giving him a shot.

To resume, I'm just really confused about those two guys. I just don't know if I'm supposed to give the second one a chance while beign into someone else. And I'd like to get to know the first one, I just don't know how to engage a conversation (I have him on my facebook friend), I'm just definitely not sef-confident. Plus, I'd like to say that I've been in a long relationship before that ended and that was quite messy so I just don't want to be hurt and most important I don't want to hurt anyone.

Anyway, if you could just say whatever you think of the situation. Why do you think the first guy is looking at me ? Is it possibly because he's attracted to me or something else (mostly because his friend is watching) ? And what about the second one ? How am I supposed to react with him (just know that he had no idea that I've been told that he's into me) ?

if you really like the first guy then i think you should find a way to talk to him or get to know him better ,i know it doesn't sound easy especially when you like someone but maybe you should start chatting with him on fb if that makes you feel better (and maybe he's feeling the same ,that's why he's 'watching' you) and as for the second one ,i think you shouldn't make a move since you're interested in someone else ,just wait and see and if he decides to talk to you about the way he feels then consider about him more ,see if you really like him that way or not :)

I'd say that if the first guy is continuing to check you out, there's obviously some interest there. I think you should just take a risk and approach him! Properly introduce yourself and ask him if he wants to hang out, alone, sometime. [lol no random friend allowed!] Invite him to do something casual, grab some coffee or something... And just see how things go from there.

You seem to really like the second one (not romantically) so it wouldn't be right IMO to give him false vibes, you deffo don't wanna hurt him! Just wait and see! As for the first one don't wait! You don't wanna come out as a man eater but it wouldn't be bad if you talked to him! ;)
The female friend really confused me maybe she's into the guy and jealous of you , my crazy thoughts :p
Anyway, you know how much I want you happy but baby we're just your online friends!:( maybe some friends you true and can see the situation can help you! I know it's gonna come out as a cheesy friend line but : DO WHAY YOUR HEART FREAKING SAYS <3 :P
Love you xx

^ Thanks for the help, I will answer more precisely when I'll have a little bit more time. I hope other members will tell me about their opinion :)

Just Nic, the girl is a lesbian so I don't think she's into him and she has a girlfriend :D
And as for telling friends, my best friend knows the whole story but she's not leaving in my town so she can't see. I do have friends, in college, but to be honest with you, I don't trust them enough to confess about that.



So I talked about the first one to one of my college friend and ask her to keep that for her. She told me she would check it out for me, and see if he's watching me or not and try to see what it means.
I don't think I'll go talk to him directly to ask him to grab a coffee or on facebook (because that would make me really ill at ease when we'll see for real) but I think that I'll try to get closer to some of his friends (some are on my classes) or try to find an excuse to talk to him (like do you have a pen or something like that you know pretty casual :)) !
As for the second one, I think you're right. I won't do anything to make him thunk that there's a way for us to be more. I'll let things go naturally. It's better for him.


Anyway thanks to all three,I really appreciated the fact that you took some times to read it and give me some advice :)
If anyone has something to add, I'm in :D

Kiss girls, take care :D I'll have a week free in two weeks, so hopefully I'll be more available.

I think you should find a way to talk to the first guy because if he looks at you often, it must mean something. I know that you don't feel comfortable talking to him through Facebook (trust me I've been there) but you know, if you really like him, that would be too bad to miss on something that could be great.
About the second guy, just act normal around him and keep him as a friend. So he wouldn't be hurt and you won't lose him.