What happened on my good friday...who was right?

The church I go to was walking for Christ. A lady saw two men holding hands, so after the walk she walked up to one of the men and asked "are you gay". The man was offended and asked why she thought that. She replied because he was holding another mans hand, and that it looked wrong for people to see a church walking with two men holding hands.

The man starts yelling at the lady and calling her a cadela, puta less than two inches from her face, saying that he was grown and could hold hands with who ever he wants to. He went on to criticize the church telling the lady it wasn't right for the church to be asking those kinds of questions. The lady's son steps in because the man was getting to close to his mother, and then the men starts pushing the son telling him to "step off", all of which got the police involved.........was all of that aggression necessary for just asking a question?

you tell me