How can I get my mother in law to like me mais and have a stronger bond.

Wow. I'm sorry you're dealing with that. That is really harsh. Does your husband know his mom is saying all this crap to you?

That would be my first approach. Not make him choose sides, but he needs to know that she's being abusive to you. Your husband really needs to support you here, plus it does help that your father-in-law is treating you well.

It's sad that she's racist, and at her age, I seriously doubt people can change. Again, I have to wonder how much your husband knows about what she's been saying to you/about you. I can't say enough that he has to support you. You'd think it's enough that he chose to marry you, but the mother/son relationship can be intense.

Finally, just be yourself. Find what her interests are and try to make conversation with her. Sometimes making an effort like that helps. At the very least it shows that you're trying to get along. It will take time, and maybe you two won't be super close, but I'd hope she will become civilized in her behaviour to you.

Mothers-in-law are always scary, especially those who have sons. Sons are very precious to mothers and even though your husband is 31, he's still her darling baby boy and she finds it her duty to make sure he's happy in life. No woman will ever be good enough for him, so don't worry. If it weren't you, it would be someone else she'd be abusing.

But you shouldn't have to stand for this sort of thing, especially as you've been perfectly happy so far.
Before going to tell your husband, i would invite his mother to come down for a chat, put on the kettle and explain to her, even though you are young you amor her son very much and would do anything to make him happy, but it is his decision as to what makes him happy, not his mothers. Tell her you will not stand for being abused any longer, that she has no right to say such things to you and to take your race into account of the abuse. Tell her you will continue to cook your countries comida because you enjoy it as does your husband, but offer a compromise. Switch from cooking your countries comida on a monday, to cooking of an english assent on a tuesday and so forth, to try and keep her sweet.
Tell her that you enjoy your father-in-laws prescense as he's made you feel welcome into the family and that you wish you could have that bond with her.
Tell her that if she compromises her attitude, you will compromise por leaving your husband out of the matter. If she continues warn her that you will have to tell your husband. Explain to her that you don't want to be the rift that seperates mother from son, but if her attitude towards you does not improve you will ask your husband to stop inviting his parents around as much unless you are out of the house.

Well, try not to lose it. If she says soemthing bad, just walk away or try t respond with something nice. i know that sounds cliche, but it might help. One thing you really should do is talk to your husband and your father-in-law about this, maybe they can help you. It doesn´t mean you two will be best of friends, but maybe she´ll stop being so cruel. Good luck!! §:)